Just Do It!
by Lucie Ulrich
Okay, so I totally stole that line from Nike, but it fits my life. I never set out to be a writer. I wasn’t born with a passion for books, so writing one never entered my mind—until I hit my forties. Before that, I had other goals in mind.
Goal 1: Work for an airline (like my father) and see the world. Thought I started at a security checkpoint (pre-TSA), I eventually was hired by Continental Airlines. I didn’t see all of the world, but I saw enough to feel accomplished and satisfied. Goal met.
Goal 2: Be the best stay-at-home mom I could be. Staying at home was something my husband and I agreed to long before we had children. It came with ups and downs and a good number of struggles, but we made it work. This is not a statement against working mothers by any stretch. It was the right (and best) decision for me. Goal met.
Goal 3: Home school my children. Now, this plan came out of nowhere. You have to understand that back in the mid 80’s, home schooling was a new concept, and one that was not always well-received. I had no plans to go that route. My husband and I had visited a private school which we felt would work for our daughter. My neighbor decided to homeschool her kids, which I thought was crazy. Guess that’s what I got for thinking. Lol! Honestly, I got into the shower one day with the potential school on my mind and came out knowing I needed to give home schooling a try.
My poor daughter was my guinea pig. In the end, she went from a home school setting, to a public school, to a private school, back to home school, and finished her final two years at a private school. My son was home schooled from kindergarten through the eighth grade. I knew enough to know I wasn’t prepared, or willing to teach his high school years. I did prepare both kids to the best of my ability, and had a great time doing it. Goal met.
Goal 4: Write a novel and have it published. This one came about slowly. As a member of my church’s drama team, I was happy acting in skits and plays. A few years in, the writing bug bit. Long story short, I took over as writer and director, which brought me to a similar positing at the private school my son attended—all the while, novels were being birthed in me. From the time I penned my first (not-so-great) book until the time I had one published, eleven years passed. My plan was to be published by the time I was 50. Yeah, didn’t happen until I was fifty-eight, but it DID happen. Goal met.
All of my goals came with ups, downs, frustrations, joy, laughter, tears, and lots of hard work—but they did come. I’d love to hear about your goals—the ones reached and those still in the working or even dreaming stage. Two dreamers will be chosen to receive an e-copy of any of my books—winner’s choice.
Thank you, Lucie for that great post. I absolutely believe in setting goals – goals in life, goals for the year, for the week…you name it. I feel more accomplished when I have goals.
Now, lets talk about your new release! Congrats, by the way 🙂 First, can you tell us a little about your novella?
Mountain View Lodge brings back a secondary character who took on a life of her own in The Starlight Inn. Tillie Spencer started as a somewhat nosy, little old lady, but turned into a mysterious, little old lady who quickly became one of my favorite characters. Tillie travels from hotel, to inn, to lodge, imparting her advice—whether welcomed or not. In MVL, she finds herself in North Carolina during the weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day—Autumn’s least favorite holiday. But Valentine’s Day isn’t the end. It’s just the beginning.
Intriguing. I love reading more about a character that is so endearing.
What was the inspiration for Mountain View Lodge?
I love the mountains, and I love North Carolina, so it seemed the perfect setting. Originally, I wanted to write a holiday series, so Valentine’s Day was the logical next holiday after Christmas. In the end, however, I opted for the travel aspect over the holiday one. I’m not a huge Valentine’s Day fan, myself, so I incorporated that into Autumn’s character.
You are speaking my language! Mountains, North Carolina, someone who’s not as keen on holidays…
Do you have any current projects you’re working on? Care to share?
I’m currently working on two new books. The third Tillie Spencer novella (not yet named) takes place at a small hotel on the East Coast of Florida. Will single-father Drew and new hotel manager Abby find romance? They will if Tillie has anything to say about it. And Tillie always has something to say!
The other book is a full-length novel I’ve titled Memories in the Sand. Yes, it’s another beach story. Lol! Widow, Finley Long cherishes her memories with her late husband, knowing she needs to move on. Zach Palmer is trying to figure out how to move forward with his life. His wife wants a divorce, but an accident puts her in a coma before anything is done about it. While his interest in Finley grows, he questions whether or not God has other plans for he and his wife.
Best of luck with your books. They sound interesting! Thank you so much, Lucie, for sharing a bit more about your book. I am eager to give my readers a better view of your novella. So, without further ado, here it is:
Mountain View Lodge: A Tillie Spencer Novella
Enjoy an Excerpt
Coll remained silent. He stared after the lady until she disappeared into the crowd of partygoers. The sound of Autumn’s chuckling drew him back to the reason he was here. He focused on his companion. “How long have you known that lady?”
“I met her yesterday.”
“She’s . . . interesting.”
“Interesting is one of Tillie’s many characteristics.” Autumn eyed his attire. “You look very nice, though I still prefer the kilt.” She sighed deeply. “There’s just something about a guy in a plaid skirt and knee socks.”
“In that case, allow me to escort you to a room filled with guys in skirts and socks. You can ogle to your heart’s content.” She laughed, and he liked the way it sounded—like a spring breeze, light and airy.
“I’m not going to lie, after that amazing wedding, I just knew I had to get a glimpse of what the reception would be like. Thanks for keeping me from looking like a curiosity seeker.”
“Thank you for not making me go alone.”
Minutes later, Coll found himself seated between Autumn and Chloe, the young girl who’d played the flute. Along with everyone in the room, he applauded when the bridal party was introduced and waited out the hoots and cheers when the newlyweds entered. A portion of his heart fractured when the newly-married couple stepped onto the dance floor for their first dance. Why had he agreed to attend the reception? This wasn’t where he wanted to be. It was one thing to be paid to play during the ceremony, quite another to sit through all the toasts and accolades. Sweat beaded on his forehead, and his palms went clammy.
Autumn touched his arm. “You okay? You look a little pale.”
He focused on Autumn, making sure he seemed at ease. He’d asked her to join him and would make the best of it. “I’m fine. Guess the last couple of days have caught up with me.” She looked doubtful but didn’t say anything more about it.
When couples were invited to join the bride and groom on the dance floor, Autumn stood and held out her hand. “Come on.”
Having no desire to dance, Coll hesitated, but could hardly refuse her offer. He rubbed his palms on his slacks. “I’m not much of a dancer.”
“Neither am I.”
Her smile brightened his mood. He pushed his chair back and stood. Taking her small hand in his, Coll walked in the direction of the dance floor.
“Not that way.” Autumn led him toward the exit.
“Where are we going?”
“Anywhere but here.”
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More About the Author
Lucie Ulrich is an award-winning author of inspirational fiction. Her books are filled with faith, family, forgiveness, and a little humor to round things out.
A former drama teacher and performing arts director, Lucie now enjoys going on photo shoots with her husband and taking long (or short) road trips. She continues to find inspiration as she and her husband explore the four corners of the United States.
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As Lucie mentioned above, she is offering a GIVEAWAY! Two lucky winners will be chosen to receive either an e-copy of Mountain View Lodge or their choice of another of her books (e-copy only). Please follow the directions on the Rafflecopter below:
Life is Crazy. I am a momma of three young children (ages 8, 7, and 4). Two of them have special needs. Then I have the house to take care of, the groceries, the laundry, the cooking…you know the regimen.
On top of that, I coordinate a ministry that I am passionate about. It requires me to maintain a separate blog, facilitate communication between leadership members, write a monthly newsletter, and update power points. I am also increasing my speaking engagements.
I am thrilled about the opportunities that are opening up for me. But it takes planning and preparation time.
I also need to market for 8 books and I am working on writing 3 and researching 1 right now. Maintaining my newsletter, street team, social media, constantly educating myself on the craft of writing….
Basically, I have a lot on my plate. To keep all this going, it takes organization and planning. A LOT of organization and planning. And I know I’m not the only one. There are others of you who have even more on your plate. Some of you have all that and a full time or part time job!
So, what are some tricks to manage it?
First, you need goals. If you have spent any time reading my blog, you know how I feel about goals. They give you something to work toward and help you know when and what you have achieved each week/month.
So, sit down and set some goals.
- What will you write this year?
- How long will it take you to write that?
- Pencil in those writing sessions each day/week
- Set your deadlines for rough draft and self-edits
- What do you want to accomplish with your writing?
- How will you accomplish that?
- What is your target audience?
- Where is your audience?
- How will you reach them?
- Make sure to mark appointments in your calendar
- Include exercise and things like devotion/quiet times in your calendar (if it’s not in my calendar, I will not make the time for it)
- Make time for date nights, time with your kiddos
Time for YOU:
- Just know as you plan your week/month that you will need leeway to have time with friends
- And plan time for you/rest each day; even if it’s 30 minutes to read or just relax with a TV show
Make your TO DO list for the week:
- write everything down that needs to be done in the week
- dream big
- include writing goals for the week (whether number of scenes, chapters, or word count)
- include these other areas mentioned above
- include “due dates” for the items on the list
Distribute TO DOs among the days of the week:
- look at your schedule each day and make an even distribution of items, taking into account what you have going on each day
- make sure you have REST time each day
Prioritize list for each day:
- pick the three most important tasks to be done each day
- if those get done, you have accomplished much; doing more is icing on the cake
- I set an alarm at noon, if I haven’t already started writing/editing, that is my cue to drop what I’m doing and start then
- I also use timers to manage tasks – I’ll do housework for 15 minutes, I’ll do social media for 15 minutes (can you tell 15 minutes is my “special increment”?)
Build a really good planner:
- Intentional Moms has a great planner that works with these principles and you can download the planner so you can print it out, add your own sheets, add on different packets (you can take the printed out stuff to FedEx Office and have them spiral bind it for about $5
- Susan May Warren’s “My Story Matters” planner has great guidelines for setting goals for writing and marketing
- Plum Paper has great options for building your own planner and adding sections and whatnot
I am pleased to welcome back author Krysten Lindsay Hager. She writes Contemporary YA Fiction. Her characters experience everything I wish I had as a teenager. And without being fantastical or beyond believable. She keeps it real. What more could you want?
So, without further ado, let me step out of the way as I introduce you to her newest release, Can Dreams Come True!
Can Dreams Come True (Book One of the Cecily Taylor Series)
Cecily has always had a huge crush on singer Andrew Holiday and she wants to be an actress, so she tags along when her friend auditions for his new video. However, the director isn’t looking for an actress, but rather the girl next door—and so is Andrew. Cecily gets a part in the video and all of Andrew’s attention on the set. Her friend begins to see red and Cecily’s boyfriend is seeing green—as in major jealousy. A misunderstanding leaves Cecily and her boyfriend on the outs and Andrew hopes to pick up the pieces as he’s looking for someone more stable in his life than the models he’s dated. Soon Cecily begins to realize Andrew understands her more than her small-town boyfriend—but can her perfect love match really be her favorite rock star?
Enjoy an Excerpt
Okay, if I wanted to do a good job in this music video then I had to become this character and show how she and Andrew were soulmates who would recognize each other just by walking by.
Andrew got into position and the director yelled, “Action.”
Andrew and I began to walk toward one another. He glanced away from me and then right as we got closer, he gave me an intense, longing stare which almost took my breath away. I lost all focus and forgot what I was supposed to do. It was like time was standing still and we were the only two people in the world.
“Cut!” Dimitri said. “Perfection. You absolutely nailed the look, Cecily. Let’s try it again, but this time the focus will be on Andrew’s angle.”
My face felt warm as I walked back on my mark to go again. How did I get my look so perfect when I hadn’t done anything intentional? Andrew’s gaze had been so overwhelming I had forgotten everything I was meant to do. Then it hit me—my look hadn’t been an act. Whatever I did in the scene was how I actually felt in the moment and if Dimitri said it was the perfect look then it meant I must have been showing my true feelings for Andrew. How embarrassing! Did people think I was acting or was my stupid kiddie crush apparent to everyone now? Andrew would probably take the security guys aside and tell them there was a stalker present and to quietly escort me off the premises without making a scene. The whole crew would laugh over how the dumb star struck kid got caught up in her obsession with the pop star. I never should have done this. At least before I had the fantasy, now Andrew was aware of my existence and instead of remembering the connection we had earlier, he’d see me as just another fan.
Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079S3KJSH
Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B079S3KJSH
Amazon IN: https://www.amazon.in/dp/B079S3KJSH
Amazon Germany: https://www.amazon.de/dp/B079S3KJSH
Amazon Canada: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B079S3KJSH
More About the Author
Krysten Lindsay Hager writes about friendship, self-esteem, fitting in, frenemies, crushes, fame, first loves, and values. She is the author of True Colors, Best Friends…Forever?, Next Door to a Star, Landry in Like, Competing with the Star, Dating the It Guy, and Can Dreams Come True? True Colors, won the Readers Favorite award for best preteen book and the Dayton Book Expo Bestseller Award for childen/teens. Competing with the Star is a Readers’ Favorite Book Award Finalist.
Krysten’s work has been featured in USA Today, The Flint Journal, the Grand Haven Tribune, the Beavercreek Current, the Bellbrook Times, Springfield News-Sun, Grand Blanc View, Dayton Daily News and on the talk show Living Dayton.
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I don’t know if you’ve heard before…but writing takes a physical toll on your body. I know it may not seem like it. I mean, all we’re doing is sitting and typing on a keyboard, right?
If you really think about it, the challenges come to light. If you aren’t set up ergonomically, you can develop carpal tunnel issues, there can be posture concerns, the fact that we are sedentary for extended periods of time (still but for our fingers moving as if to fly off our hands)…these are just a few.
“Ergonomics” technically means “the study of people’s efficiency in their work environment”. However, we generally understand it to mean the proper function of our work environment. Which does produce efficiency in that it reduces work place injury, leading to higher performing workers.
Let’s think about your keyboard (which is by far the thing of focus when we talk about ergonomics for all who work at a computer screen). What is the most ergonomically sound way to posture your keyboard and hands/wrists to prevent wearing on those ligaments and tendons?
An ergonomic keyboard is one built with the goal to reduce muscle strain, thus reducing the risk of carpal tunnel syndrome. Many “ergonomic keyboards” are built with a V-shape, keeping the hands at a more natural angle for your posture. But some think that reducing strain, rather than maintaining a certain posture, is more important.
Other suggestions for body position include: have the keyboard 1-2 inches above your thighs and keep your mouse and keyboard in such a position that they are shoulder width apart. The idea is to keep your elbows close to your body. This puts your arms and torso in a less strained position.
This has become particularly important for me. A few weeks ago, I was experiencing an increase in the frequency of migraines. I am a chronic migraine sufferer. And I take two pills daily to prevent them. Still, I started to experience 3-5 a week instead of the 1-2 a month we had reduced them to. My doctor took an x-ray of my neck to see if there was anything of note. And we found something a little off topic for the migraines, but something of concern.
I had degeneration (early arthritis) in my neck. Now, I won’t share my age (what lady would?), but I have not reached 40. I am, as my doctor put it “waaayyyy too young to have this kind of thing to this degree”. His thoughts? The long hours spent writing. My posture. The fact that my laptop was typically at chest level, leaving me looking down, created a problem for my neck curvature. This also aggravated the muscles at the base of my neck. Now I have two problems: degeneration and muscle spasms. So, I have revamped my work space to fix the one issue and I am working on making those muscles happy again.
How did I fix it? I raised my monitor and swiped my husband’s blue tooth keyboard. I already had a large monitor that paired with my laptop in my office. It is large enough that I am not looking down. And when I work downstairs, I have one of those portable laptop desks to set my laptop on, at eye level, and type on the “swiped” bluetooth keyboard. Now, my neck is more properly aligned.
I was also warned to use a small pillow behind my lumbar region to create better posture for my upper back.
Sedentary for Extended Periods of Time
An easy answer to this is a standing desk. But the world is discovering that, while it fixes some problems, it can bring on its own. Some of those can be solved by securing a standing desk mat or one of the contraptions that you roll your feet on to stimulate blood flow. My chiropractor even mentioned a balance board to keep from standing in one position for too long.
Another way to get in activity would be to set a timer on your writing sessions. I know we don’t want to do this. Get up every 30-45 minutes, get some water, go to the bathroom. Perhaps do 10 squats while your at it 🙂 Maybe take a longer break at lunch and take a 20 minute stroll around the neighborhood to increase circulation. A fresh wave of blood flow to the brain will only increase your creativity.
We already knew that we had challenges as writers. And balancing life, home, commitments, sometimes another job, and our passion for writing is no easy task. But we also have to consider our bodies and the physical demands placed on us, and how we can reduce strain, injury, and bad habits.
Something to think about.
Planning A Book Launch
by Greg L. Turnquist
In this day and age, launching a book isn’t something handled by your publisher. You the author are front and center a part of it. That is, unless you want your book to debut dead on arrival. So what can you do?
I’ve actually learned lots of tips and tricks from multiple experts, most notably Dave Chesson from Kindlepreneur.com as well as the Sell More Books Show hosted by Jim Kukral and Bryan Cohen.
The big thing we need on launch day is exposure. We want to get our hot new book in front of as many interested people as possible! Otherwise, it’s like giving a concert to an empty auditorium. There are many approaches. Let’s pick the four that I’m planning to use for my debut novel, Darklight.
Alert your email list
One of the most valuable things we can do it build an email list. It’s something you should have started yesterday, not the day after you launch. On the your book is released, reach out to your email list and let them know. Give them a call to action to get it while it’s hot! Not everyone is going to respond to your call to action, but if you have done things in the past like give your audience a free short story prequel or similar goodie, the odds increase that your audience will dash off to Amazon and snag a copy. (By the way, plan a follow up email, perhaps 1-2 weeks later, asking everyone that grabbed a copy to leave a review).
List your book on free newsletters
I’ve interacted with Virtual Book Tours in the past, and have mixed reactions on their cost vs. outcome. These book tours typically cost between $300-$500 in exchange for 15-30 “stops”. The conversion rate to book sales has not impressed me. But I recently learned that there are a whole fleet of “free” newsletters you can sign up and have your book listed. How is this possible? These newsletters all use “affiliate links” whereby ANY sale completed with Amazon within 24 hours yields them some cash. Their success is based on volume, so they are eager to get your book on the list. And guess what? For a small fee ($10-$15) you can purchase a premium slot. So I’m planning to do list Darklight on at four of these newsletters throughout the month of April. For a list of newsletter prospects, check out Dave Chesson’s list of free and almost-free promo sites. (https://kindlepreneur.com/list-sites-promote-free-amazon-books/)
Another biggie I’ve also tinkered with are ads. Ads are everywhere. It’s the revenue model that has literally put Google into the Top 5 of biggest companies ever. So it goes to show, you can purchase Google ads, Facebook ads, Twitter ads, and more. A natural question is “where do I start?” Since I’m releasing purely on Amazon, I plan to use Amazon Market Services (AMS) ads. That’s because the people already roaming around Amazon are, shall we say, more likely to be in a buying mood than someone surfing Facebook. IMHO, people on FB are more likely looking for a funny cat meme.
With AMS, you do is pick your daily budget, your “cost-per-click” max, and a set of keywords. Pick how long you want this ad campaign to run and you’re set. (If you’re book is being released by someone else, they’ll have to set it up.) I asked my publisher if we could do a 2-week campaign, limited to $20/day. That translates to a maximum of $280, which is way cheaper than the last book tour I saw ($499). I am using AMS’s default rate of $0.25-per-click. (Anyone that clicks one of my ads will never cost me more than a quarter). And thanks to having purchased a copy of KDP Rocket (https://jvz7.com/c/990803/225041), it only took me maybe thirty minutes to put together a spreadsheet of over 1000 keywords. These keywords should connect my book’s ad with people that would enjoy my story
Of course, never forget to let all your followers on social media. While social media has a much worse rate of sales, it doesn’t cost you anything.
That’s a lot of my strategy for launching a book. Do you have some ideas? Please post your own experiences and you could win a free e-book copy of Darklight.
Interview With Greg
Snitch, a young woman who grew up on the streets of Kelmar as a thief, has discovered something terrible. The regime’s evil military ruler has learned the hideout location of the resistance she joined and ordered an all out assault. Combined with the captain of the disbanded royal guard, a political prisoner, a duke’s daughter, and an old advisor, can her team survive and free Kelmar?
What an interesting premise. I am always intrigued by writers and that spark, that original idea. What was the inspiration for Darklight?
When I was a kid, I had this idea about an entire world below ground, underneath the manhole covers of the sewer system. Having read exciting books like Dune and Doctor Strange comic books, my mind started weaving tales of people overcoming a hostile environment while facing extinction.
So, did you always want to be a writer? If not, what did you want to be when you were a child?
Not really. I’d always been into computers, even at a very young age, which is why I became a software developer.
Computers, huh. I’m lucky if I can get my word processor program to work without crashing the whole system 🙂
When did you first realize you wanted to be a writer?
When a friend introduced me to Isaac Asimov’s Foundation series, I became an instant Sci-Fi fan. I read everything I could find. And then one day, this idea of a world in the Earth’s distant future, formed in my mind.
As much as we all love creating new stories, I know there are things about the writing process that we don’t like as much. What part do you dread?
Editing. Going back for the nth time and making another sweep is tiresome, and I hate STILL spotting mistakes.
We can all learn from each other no matter how long we’ve been at it. Or how new you are to the craft, I believe you can bring something to other writers. Do you have any suggestions to help me become a better writer?
Find someone that has been through the publishing process and is willing to sit down and critique your story. This is someone that will have been through multiple editors and has learned a thing or two about publishable content. Their advice will be much better than asking your best bud to tell you whether or not your story is any good. (HINT: Your friends will feel pressured to be nice and say “It’s great” even if it’s not.)
That’s great advice!
I believe we also learn intuitively from what we read. In and out of our beloved genres. What are you currently reading?
Frag Space by Mars Dorian. It’s an ARC for a friend of mine that lives in Berlin. I’m impressed because this guy writes 3000-5000 works a day
As my readers already know, I set the stage for my writing sessions with music. What about you? What kind of music, if any, do you listen to when you write?
Anything by Rush as well as the soundtrack from Tron: Legacy
And do you have a favorite time of day to write? What about a favorite place?
Either when I’m on a writing date with my wife, or at night, when everyone else is asleep.
I know this is individual to each writer as everyone’s creative process is their own. But for curiosity’s sake…how long does it take you to write a book?
It usually takes me about 4-5 months to write a tech book, but it has taken me eight years to write Darklight.
One more for curiosity’s sake…would you share something about your newest release that is NOT in the blurb? Give us a peek behind the curtain?
An old Sci-Fi film that has strongly inspired me was Forbidden Planet, from the 1950s. It showed what happens when society attains too much power. This concept underpins the back story of my novel. While the people in the novel live in a medieval existence, society once reached high heights, until something terrible happened. I plan to show this through the trilogy I’m aiming to write, with Darklight being the start.
Do you have any current projects your working on? Care to share?
When I finished Darklight, I had all kinds of ideas for a sequel. I wanted the main character thrown into new challenges, so I started drafting Neophyte. What would you do if you had to defend the Earth but had no training?
Snitch moved as fast as she could in the dark toward the southern edge of the city-state of Kelmar, desperate to not draw attention to herself. Fortunately, rain had caused a haze to fall.
He was coming. Snitch couldn’t believe it. She had to get this information back to the Undergrounders if they were to have any chance to escape.
Her knowledge of this part of the city told her to keep a sharp lookout for rival gangs; gangs that had risen to fill the power vacuum left behind when Melicose purged Kelmar’s palace of all of its nobility.
As she exited an alley, a gust of wind made her clutch the edge of her coat and pull it tight. Steeling herself, she pressed on.
Melicose was coming, according to one of her contacts. What were they going to do?
She approached a familiar corner and slowed when she recognized members of the Raiders. Glancing back, she gulped. Too late to find another route.
“Snitch,” Marlon boomed. “What are you doing here?”
He was the Raiders’ second lieutenant or something. She couldn’t keep track of the ever-changing titles.
“I didn’t know you guys had moved into this block.” Her lips pressed flat as she shifted her weight between her feet. “I was trying to stay off your turf.”
Tall and dark, he crept closer, eyeing her. The others drifted in behind him. “You haven’t answered my question.”
Snitch knew Marlon wouldn’t take kindly to any sort of brush off. She’d heard enough stories of people crossing street gangs, and the last thing she wanted was to become another story.
More About the Author
Greg has read Sci-Fi since he was a kid including Isaac Asimov, Frank Herbert, Bret Saberhagen, and Lester del Rey. Years ago, the idea of a futuristic world reduced to a medieval existence began to bounce around in his head. He also loves slinging code as a software geek, and has written several non-fiction books. He lives in Middle Tennessee with his wife and family.
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Greg has generously offered a GIVEAWAY to one (1) winner. A free e-copy of Darklight! Follow the instructions on the Rafflecopter below:
There comes a time in anyone’s life when you just get overwhelmed. You know what I mean…overstressed, overtired, overwrought, overdone. It’s too much. Your TO DO list is longer at the end of the day than it was at the beginning.
You have tried prioritizing your TO DO list and “being okay” with checking off the top 3-4 things on the list.
You repeatedly talk yourself out of the perfectionist standard you fight against.
And you just. need. a. break.
You are not alone.
I have been there. I AM totally there.
I wear many hats: mom, wife, ministry leader, full time writer/author, marketing director, domestic engineer…
Last weekend, I had a come-to-Jesus meeting with myself. Let’s call it what it was…I had a mini-breakdown.
On Friday, we had a speaker at the moms’ group I work with. She posed a couple of “think about it” questions to us:
What do you think about when it gets quiet?
Well, I think about all the things I have to do. Which is always a list of 5 or 6 things at any given moment.
What do you really want?
A break. A real break.
Fast forward to a Writers Conference I went to the next day. The keynote was none other than Brandilyn Collins. She was talking about a manuscript she had to cut by 40%. And her approach was not to find things to cut, but instead to focus on what the story was about, then the rest was excess and could go.
A lightbulb went off. God was speaking.
That was the key for my situation!
Why didn’t I approach my life that way? Look at what fit my purpose, my goals…and let the rest go. Not that there weren’t good things in my calendar, but if they didn’t fit my purpose/goals, they didn’t feed my soul, they were just taking away necessary time and weighing down my schedule.
First, I had to know my purpose, my goals.
And then I could approach my week, my commitments this way: Does it fit my purpose/goals? Does it feed my soul or allow me to rest? If not, then it needs to go.
But as far as making new commitments, my default answer is: I will think about it. I am no longer allowing myself to say “yes” immediately. If they need an answer on the spot, it must be “no”. Because I need to consult my calendar thoughtfully. Saying “yes”, means giving up time elsewhere, saying “no” to something else, or perhaps other thingS. And my schedule is so busy, it usually means giving up multiple things.
My hope for you is that you, too, can find that balance, that focus, and let go of the excess. Because I have found peace in that. And you can too.